R for Rejection

Let’s be honest here. We do not like to experience rejection. This nine letter word can and has caused so much pain to so many of us. Whether it was a rejection in love or a NO that came out of an interview. It is hard to come to terms with the word NO. Why would one say No to you? Like what are the qualifications for one not to get rejected? Is there a manual one has to go through in order not to experience rejection?

So I have been budged a million times by friends to come clean and like tell a guy I like that I like them. Ok. That now is crossing a boundary. Why should I have to be the one to start that conversation? I tend to feel like it is demeaning. I mean kudos to all the women who got guts. Me and my introverted self should go lock ourselves I the bathroom and have a conversation.

I have (in the past) honestly honestly tried to talk my feelings out, but in the end there is usually no positive outcome. I always wonder why I should put myself out there. Comfort zone is so comfortable. Comfort is good. There is no disturbance, there is so much peace. Besides there is no turbulence shaking of the sea. I want to remain calm.

That’s the thing. My friends hate calmness. They want to always intervene and cause a stir. Thank you ladies for always lending a helping hand, but we(me, myself and I), want to be chased. Is that so bad to ask for? Just for once? Yes I agree it might take longer because after all the guy is the one supposed to be doing the chasing, not me(the girl).

How many rounds of rejection should one go through in order to give up? For me, it only took two tries. No thank you. No more heart breaks and letters of rejection. Yes they guy “ingiad box”, but not for to long. Oh yes then once someone said he would want to avoid me because ” I do things to him”. He was avoiding having to like me back. Ok… Scratching my head.

With these two incidences I learnt my lesson that I can’t put myself out there. Out there belongs to the brave, the strong and those who are not afraid.

I know men also fear rejection, but I feel like a woman takes it harder as compared to a guy. After all there are plenty more fish in the sea. Right? So let’s keep fishing.

Maybe I should write a book titled “how to reject rejection”, perhaps then I will have figured out the perfect art of accepting and refusing rejection. If not learn to deal with it.

For now let me climb back into my safety net.