Fatherhood is fun. Being a dad is so cool that sometimes I wish I was a dad. Have you ever seen how children interact with their fathers? Mums usually get so scared that the child might fall it break but somehow dads have very good intuition and timing.
Having a conversation the other day with a friend and we were in owe how some daddy figures we know sacrifice just to get home from work to spend time with their kids.
Someone once told me that 99.999999% of the time ‘mtoto ni wa mama’. But let’s face it. Wasn’t this child created by two people? Isn’t this child the responsibility of two people, namely mum and dad, woman and man? I just didn’t get it. I still don’t, because both mother and father play a BIG role in nurturing.
If the man isn’t taking part, what is he doing?
Men also want to learn how to be dads. We as women have to teach them sometimes, but we can also let them just learn. He will feel part of something. I know sometimes we tend to be over protective but let’s let dad be dad in his own way.
I loved it when my dad would throw me in the air and catch me. Well, mum would be mad but that is just his way. When I would sit on his foot and I would make him walk, those were precious moments. Memories like these are forever etched on a child’s mind.
It feels good when the father of a child just takes part. It relieves the pressure on the woman and also the man gets comfortable with it. To hear that a father wants to take part in bath time for his son or daughter is heart warming.
To see him leaving work early just to spend time, not because he is being forced to, but because he wants to, is pure bliss. Whether it’s the first born or tenth born. A father’s presence is relevant.
Perhaps these outstanding fathers should give us their secret. Perhaps even teach other men how not to shy away from nurturing their own flesh and blood. This perspective of women being the sole carers needs to change.
Happy(all rounded) child= Mum+Dad
Every night I pray and I ask God to give me a good man- A man who will not run away from me when circumstances are rough and tough, a man who loves kids, a man who will take part in my life and his kids life fully, a man who will cherish spending time with his family.
It is way past fathers day, but happy fathers’ month to all dads who make their families lives worth everything. We 💙you.