Thirty years ago, a queen was born. She had no idea that what life had in store for her would be an adventure and thrill at every waking moment. It was like she never imagined, and as she became older, life kept changing. Changing for the better. Well, let’s not forget the roller coaster ride in between because let’s face it, life is sweeter with all these rides along the way.
The queen is me.
Over time, I have grown to learn the basics and complexities of life, and sometimes what life can throw at us can be aggressive and gentle in equal measure. Trying to understand that, has been quite a journey. Accepting outcomes in life can be (very) difficult, and most times accepting whatever it is can be life-changing.
There are some lessons that I have learned along the way and these help me keep my crown from falling. Want to know some of these things?
First, before I begin, why don’t you grab a coffee or something as we sit and reflect together. This is not a review of the thirty things I wish my younger self knew. It is a stock take of when I realized who I am and how I feel about life in general.
Now that that is out of the way, let’s begin: –
- Learn to be happy
Happiness is an inside job. Period. It is up to you to work on what will make you be wild with happiness, so to speak. What makes you tick? Adventure? Sitting in cozy with a book or movie? Find that thing and dwell on that. I found my happy place (blogging). What’s yours?
- You don’t owe anyone an explanation
This is what I mean. You are old enough to make decisions on your own, and what you say goes. In your mind, if it is the right thing to do, go ahead and do that. Your satisfaction is all that matters. Don’t feel guilty or apologize for something that isn’t your fault or isn’t in your control. Just do you already!!
- If you must “get rid” of someone or something, do it!
I don’t mean killing someone or something. What I mean is that if this thing is bothersome, block it, delete it, just get rid of it. I used to have a fear of blocking people from my life, but I learned that if he or she isn’t good enough for you, then they are of no use anymore. Just let them go. Holding on just makes the baggage much more and will have a negative impact. I stopped feeling guilty about throwing away people who don’t treasure me as a person and just moved on.
PS: It is an amazing feeling 😊
- Take a Risk
Comfort is good, that I know because stepping out of our comfort areas is very difficult. It was becoming toxic at my place of work and at some point, I decided to leave. By the time I made up my mind, I had gone through so many scenarios in my mind and it was best that I did. I felt more at peace, I was able to attend to my sanity and myself and then I saw the world with a bigger and clearer picture. It is okay to be scared. Who isn’t?
- Keep being you
Honestly, I am a hopeless romantic. I love to love and even if it keeps running away from me, I haven’t lost hope in it. I know somewhere along the way, will find me. Yes, I might have changed a little, with knowing what I want and not falling in and out of love hopelessly (and definitely not sending love messages on someone’s TL on Facebook).
I won’t lie that there isn’t pressure from every corner to get married, have kids, and all that responsibility. The pressure is real. But you know what? When that time comes, I am sure I will take it up with a lot of love and respect. In the meantime, I will keep doing me.
- Live life to the Fullest!!
Last but not least, life is meant to be lived. Have an adventure, spend time with family and friends. If you want to, climb a mountain and then scream your lungs out. Just don’t lose yourself in being busy. Sometimes we need to see and think outside the box for us to experience new things. Life is full. Live it!!